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I Snap When I Argue |
Sometimes I can be very argumentative when I feel like I'm right. When someone makes me angry, I try to relax, but if it keeps happening, I snap. When I snap, I say some really messed up things to people. What should I do?
Teeteelove13, age 13
Dear SmartGirl,
We all say things we are not proud of in one point in our life or another. Make sure you tell these people sorry and let them know that is how you react. Now if you turn to violence or your snapping becomes worse, you might want to think about anger management. There is nothing to be ashamed about.
SGPM Elizabeth, age 20
Dear SmartGirl,
When you feel yourself getting that angry, you just need to take a break. Remove yourself from the situation and go and take a breather, even if just for 5 minutes, just to collect yourself and your thoughts together so that you can talk calmly and sensibly without saying anything silly. That way you can also come up with a solution. And remember you aren't always necessarily right and sometimes it's good to just admit when you are wrong. But there doesn't always have to be a right and a wrong; opinions are all different. =)
SGPM Kristy, age 20
Dear SmartGirl,
When you feel you are going to snap, just count from 1 to 3 in your head and say 'stop.' You're then prompting yourself to stop your negative thoughts and leave the situation, even if you have to go for a walk or pre-occupy yourself in other ways. It often helps me if I listen to my iPod and just go for a walk; music always helps.
SGPM Katie, age 21
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