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How Much Is Pretty Enough? |
I’m skinny and tall and sometimes when I look in the mirror I think I’m just so gorgeous and that any boy would be lucky to have me. But I think when boys look at me they think I’m ugly and that I don’t have a good body shape. I think they look at me as if I’m a joke or an ugly wannabe model. That’s bullshit!!
Charmese, age 15
Hey Charmese,
The first thing I thought when I read your letter was that it’s great you are so confident. A lot of people don’t always feel that happy about themselves, especially when it comes to their body. You have a really good positive outlook and that is something you should keep with you.
I wouldn’t worry about the guys you are encountering. You’ll find someone who appreciates you. Keep in mind, while looks are clearly important in who we are attracted to, the majority of our compatibility with someone else comes from their personality. I’ve talked to a lot of my guy friends and we generally agree that we’re attracted to girls who are confident and comfortable in who they are. After that, guys like girls who are smart, funny, unique, good listeners, and have well-thought-out opinions. Looks are only part of the puzzle and generally not what maintains a healthy relationship. Of course it’s important to be physically attracted to your partner, but only if there is an excellent person behind that pretty face.
Spend some time thinking about who you are and be that girl unapologetically. The boys that you find are looking beyond just appearances will probably be more fun to date anyway.
Bill
