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My Best Friend Is Perfect
My best friend is perfect. Perfect grades, perfect looks, perfect family. She is even nice.
My parents just got divorced, and my brother and I have never gotten along. I get okay grades, but whenever I get an A- and feel good about myself, it turns out that she has an A+. Then I get upset and hate her for the rest of the day, and she never knows why.
I don't like feeling this way. What should I do?
Lyss, age 12
Tell her how you feel. She might be able to tell you things she always liked about you and your family, or share what isn't perfect about her life. Maybe you'll become closer!
Be more positive. This is an attitude problem. If you want better grades, study more. Learn to love your family the way they are. Good things take work, so work on it.
Find a new friend. Friends should make you feel good about yourself or share things in common. Even if she's nice and perfect, that doesn't mean she's the one for you.
These SmartGirls had more to say:
Why is it so hard and scary to forgive? What do you do when you're mature enough to move on, but the other person isn't? How can you ignore someone who keeps on bugging you?
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