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Results for 02/01/2007 to 02/15/2007
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Last week, Jodie said:
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"Best Friends Forever?
Everyone's heard the saying "You can have more than one best friend." I know I have more than once! Over the past year, my "best friend forever" and I have started hanging around with a new girl. I have noticed them getting closer and closer. Soon enough my best friend forever was blowing off our plans and doing stuff with the new girl. Now, the past couple of months, it's like me and my best friend forever barely talk and when we do it's like there's this "wall" between us. I know I can still talk to her whenver I have a problem but it's like I suddenly don't feel like she cares. I hate this and I feel like our friends is threatened by this issue. I have no idea what's going on and it really hurts that I have been "replaced.""
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238 SmartGirls replied:
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When your best friend forever is hanging out with the new girl make plans to hang out with some of your other friends or classmates. You may make new friends or grow closer to friends that you already had. |
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When the new girl and your best friend forever make plans ask if you can come along. If you become closer to the new girl you may become better friends and won't feel so left out. |
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Try talking to your best friend forever. Tell her how you have been feeling a little left out lately. She may not have realized that she has been hurting your feelings. Tell her that you are hurt and feel like she doesn't want to spend time with you anymore. Ask if you can set
aside time to hang out just the two of you and catch up. |
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Talk to other friends or your parents. They may have gone through the same thing and can
offer some good advice and ideas about what to do about your "issue." |
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46% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
You haven't been replaced. Take another look at the situation. Maybe she's just spending more time with this other girl. Try to get to know the other girl a little more. Maybe you'll like her! Maybe if she is blowing you off, and doing everything you say she is, then she isn?t a true friend. Try making new friends. And don't be too upset about her replacing you. You can always find a new friend that cares about your feelings. No one deserves to go through this, I've been there and I know how much it hurts to be replaced. Maybe try writing down everything you feel in a letter to your best friend, as it can be easier than talking to her directly. It sounds like your friendship means a lot and that you want to work everything out. Approach them in a non-threatening way and tell them that you are feeling left out. Chances are if they are true friends they will care what you say and change their behavior.
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