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Results for 08/14/2006 to 09/01/2006
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Last week, Julia said:
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"Wanted: Eyebrows
This is going to sound really weird - I don't have eyebrows. It's not from a disease or anything, it's from a nervous habit. I pull at them when I'm nervous, which is often. For those of you with habits like biting your nails, it's just like that. You know how hard it is to stop! I've tried to keep my hands busy, but that didn't work. I feel awful because everyone teases me, even my family. I know they don't want to be mean, but it still hurts. I've gotten used to the way I look (with half eyebrows; both the ends are gone) but I really don't want to look this way anymore! Please help!"
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309 SmartGirls replied:
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Don't worry about your nervous habit too much. Everyone has one! It even sounds like it may help you out during stressful situations. As for your eyebrows, you can draw them in with a makeup pen...or just not worry about how they look. People will like you for who you are, not how your eyebrows look. And you know, they probably have a nervous habit too! |
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Nervous habits are normal but definitely hard to break! It may help to find the underlying reasons that you start your nervous habit. Think about what situations you are in and how you feel in those situations. Once you identify your triggers, you can start to focus on what is stressing you out as opposed to covering it up with your nervous habit. You may want to avoid those stressful situations, talk to someone about how you are feeling, or even start to keep a journal. If you deal with what is really on your mind, you will be less stressed, break your nervous habit, and even have full eyebrows again! |
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Definitely stop doing that! It probably doesn't feel or even look that great to keep up with your nervous habit. It sounds like you really want to stop, so just keep thinking about that. People have a hard time breaking nervous habits, but you can do it if you truly want to! |
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Replace your nervous habit with a more pleasant one! It sounds like you already tried finding something to keep your hands busy, but try again. There are so many options out there for people who have nervous habits. For example, you can buy one of those squishy stress balls and carry it around with you. Just squeeze it whenever you start to feel stressed out or nervous. Or, you could carry around a notepad and pen. That way you can write down whatever is on your mind in those stressful situations or even just doodle. Or, you can replace your nervous habit with something as simple as smiling or doing a jumping jack or singing a song. |
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56% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Try to put some sticky cream or somthing that doesn't feel good in your fingers where you usually pull at your eyebrows so when you do, you'll get the stuff on your fingers and it'll disourage yourself from doing it. Or, when you find yourself getting nervous, stop and organize you mind and feelings so that you won't feel so nervous. Later, try some meditation to cool down your nerves and feelings. Good Luck! I bite my nails, so I know how you feel. I also try to make sure I'm not biteing my nail, and I also have friends who help me by telling me when I start to and don't realize it. Everyone has a nervous habit, but some can be destructive to things like in our case nails and eyebrows. When I get nervous or something I try to twirl my hair or move around instead. I know it must be really hard for you Julia, my habit used to be I'd keep on scratching. Well first of cut your nails so they are very short. For the time being you can buy a special eyebrow pencil the same color as your eyebrow color and pencil them on. Try to maybe join a yoga class if you feel nervous meditate or watch a funny film. Kate.
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