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Last week, shy said:
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"Copy Cat
My friend tries to copy everything that I have and do and I hate it. I always tell her to be original, but she never listens. Everytime I have a new hairstyle she wants the same one too. If my top looks better than hers, she wants the one I've got and it's so irritating. If I say anything she will get so upset. I'm just trying to not pay any attention, but it's bugging me. What should I do?"
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389 SmartGirls replied:
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Just tell her that you feel like she is always copying you and ask her to stop it. Approach the situation as calmly as possible and don't try to make her feel bad about it. Instead, calmly list examples of times she has copied what you have done and how that has made you feel. Respectfully confronting her about it should do the trick. |
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Your friend is totally out of line. She needs to allow you to be your own person. Tell her to cut it out, and if she doesn't stop, let her know that you can't be friends with a copy cat. |
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Remember that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery! Maybe your friend is just trying to let you know how cool she thinks you are. Instead of getting mad at her, try telling her how great you think she is in her own way, and the imitation will stop! |
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Maybe your friend feels like you two have been getting more and more out of touch lately, and this is the only way to reconnect. Find other things the two of you have in common and emphasize those. Spending time with your friend while you are doing things you're both equally interested in might help her to see that you two can be friends even if she isn't your mirror image, and it might help you to feel like she isn't copying you so much. |
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32% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
I would just tell her nicely that you need some space to be your own person and that you think she should be herself. Maybe you two just have a lot in common and what she buys is similar to your style but you buy it first. I have been the 'copy cat' in this situation and all my friends started calling me a poser and it was really hurtful. I just liked the same things as her, so go easy on your friend. First of all take it as a compliment. She wants to be like you. Don't be too hard on her maybe somethings going on in her life, like maybe she sees you as courageous and at the moment she's been feeling shy and excluded and really wants to be more like you. Maybe the best thing is to simply say you have been doing a lot of the same things I do and it's annoying me, could you please not do that. Also try to ask her if somethings wrong. Just keep yourself above the crowd. Don't let it bother you. She's copying you because she thinks your style is cool or because she looks up to you! Look at it as a compliment!
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