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Results for 06/13/2006 to 06/21/2006
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Last week, hanna said:
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"Fed Up Friend!
I have this friend (well, she's not really my friend) that constantly criticizes and says mean things about others and me. When she comes to my house she breaks my things (small things, like erasers and pencils but it still bothers me). She even cheats off me and my friends' papers and tests! She lies as well. I could go on and on about what she does. I don't know what to do! I try to distance myself from her but she keeps hanging out with me. If you have some advice, please tell me it! I'm fed up!"
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204 SmartGirls replied:
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Talk to your friend about how you feel. Although it may seem like distancing yourself from her may help, she may not understand why you are doing that. If you share with her how she hurts your feelings when she criticizes others or breaks your things, she may better understand why you are upset and will eventually stop her behavior. |
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Tell your teacher or someone else at school about the situation. It sounds like a lot of your friend's bothersome behavior takes place at school. It may help to find a teacher who can intervene when your friend is acting out. Your friend may then understand that you are serious about how you feel and leave you alone. |
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Make a list of all the things that bother you about your friend. Think about when and where those things happen. You can use your list to help you avoid those specific situations, or you can even use the list to talk to your friend, teachers, or parents. |
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Distancing yourself from your friend is a great start. You may want to stop having her over to your house too. You could even talk to your parents about how disrespectful your friend is at your home. It may help to have them on your side when your friend just keeps sticking around and you want her to go away. |
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57% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
If she's not nice to you, don't be nice to her! It's simple. You shouldn't talk to someone who's mean to you! Ask her for your stuff back. Or, she ought to buy you your stuff back with her money! Hanna, Either you need to let go of your friend or tell her what you don't like about her and what you need her to change. This is not a good friendship to be in when they treat you like crap, you know?Sincerely, Lainy First talk with a teacher or adult and then talk to your friend. Tell her about everything that bothers you, but just not too harshly. Your friend might take it the wrong way so just explain it slowly to her. Then she will understand how she huts you and other people. I hope things work out. ~ Gina, 10 Stay away from this so called "Friend"!
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