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Results for 01/25/2006 to 02/03/2006
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Last week, CHANY said:
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"Why was I born??
I fight a lot with my brothers. They yell and hit me, and I sometimes ask," God, why I was born?" Please help me."
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344 SmartGirls replied:
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Everyone has problems with brothers and sisters. It's just a part of growing up. But, you might want to try talking to your brothers first. Tell them that what they do bothers you and hurts you. Let them know how you feel, because most times that will change how they treat you. |
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You always have options when dealing with people who bully you. One thing you can do is simply ignore them. I know this is really difficult, especially because you have to live with them, but sometimes people are mean and hurtful just to get attention. If you ignore them and don't respond to their behavior, hopefully they'll stop. |
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Okay, if none of those things work, you can talk to another adult. Talking to a counselor or a teacher can be really helpful sometimes. Sometimes it is important to talk to someone who is outside of your family because they can give you the best advice. Don't give up! I am sure things will work out better really soon! |
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If ignoring your brothers or talking to them doesn't work, you still have other options! Talk to your parents! They are there to guide you through life, and that means helping you with rough situations. It is important that they understand how you feel. Give them a chance, they will probably make quite a difference! |
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59% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Dear Chany, Don't worry, I have MILLIONS of fights with my brother and sister! And I ask myself the same thing. Don't get sad about it, it happens to EVERYONE with siblings. Remember if one of your brothers is really annoying you just walk out the room and count to ten to get rid of your rage. If you respond, it makes them happy. Don't always dwell on the sad things in your life. I bet you've had really great times with your brothers, the same with my siblings! Stay happy! - Laurie-Ann x If your brothers are hitting you on a regular basis, that's abuse and you need to tell someone. Do your parents know about this? If not, tell them and if nothing happens, talk to a friend or family member that you're close with. As for your question: why you were born? Talk to a counselor or school nurse. They may be able to help. Best of luck, Chany, and feel better. You were born to do good. Your brothers may hit you but think of the positive things that you do and think of things you like, like your friends or a hobby that you do and could get better at it to the point where you?re really good at it and the world needs you. Think how nice your brothers are other times besides when they beat you up. And think about how much your parents love you. Think about all the good things and the ones you love and you'll realize why you were born. You're not the only one who has a lot of brothers or sisters. I have 2 older brothers and 2 older sister (one of them is my twin). And I don?t get along with any of them EVER!!! Tell your brothers to leave you alone and if they don't stop, tell your parents. Don?t ask why were you born or even think you're not worth it! You were born for a reason and I'm sure many people care about you. I mean, deep down inside your brothers care about you too. Well, hope this helps. Lots of times siblings will act mean and rude when they are tired, upset, or cranky. Whenever your brothers seem that way you should just stay away from them. Go do something in your room or take a walk to your library. Get away from them before the fighting starts! Good luck. Your brothers love you no matter what. Sure, they might bully you, but tell them occasionally that you love them. Talk to your parents about your feelings. No picture is complete without shadows. No relationship is perfect. But love is what bonds you together. I have brothers too, and I fight with them. If they say something mean I'll usually go into my room and be alone or work on homework or my relationship with my friends and God. It's hard and they say mean things but hey, that?s life, right? Girls see things differently than boys. That means we're more sensitive and have some rough times more often than boys do. Hope this helps! Your friend, Gabi Hey CHANY! Talk to your parents about setting some rules. All brothers will fight - younger or older. This is only a phase they must go through to become mature. Whatever you do, DO NOT ignore them. Sit them down and tell them how it makes you feel. Hope it stops soon. ~ JFL I feel the same way sometimes - no, most of the time! It can be hard and sometimes you just want to go to your room and cry until the bed has had a bath! When I feel that way I turn on my music as loud as I want it, and just lay there. Often, I can stay there for the rest of the day, but then I get hungry! So, when I wake up in the morning, I turn my music on and just get in the zone. Yoga helps stuff like that so you should try it sometime, and it?s a good way to stay fit. That?s all I have to say! Sometimes my brother hits me and yells at me but I know deep down he would be really sad if he really hurt me or something bad happened to me. Try telling your brother how you feel and if that doesn't work go to your parents, your friends, or even a counselor. Just be glad that you are born. Try to right a diary. I started doing that and I found that it?s easier to take your stress out on that. Before bed every night give your brothers a hug and kiss and say good night.
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