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Results for 03/21/2006 to 03/28/2006
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Last week, Darkangel said:
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"He Makes Me Feel Uncomfortable
There is this boy that I really like, but he sometimes comes up to me and puts his arms around my waist. I don't like him doing this and when I tell him to stop, he just makes rude comments about me. Even though I would actually like to have a boy like me, I don't want them to treat me like that. What should I do?"
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335 SmartGirls replied:
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Report him. He is making you feel uncomfortable and that is not acceptable. Schools do not tolerate that sort of treatment and you shouldn't either. The next time he does this, go to the school office and discuss his actions with the counselor. |
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Talk to your friends about what is going on, and with their help, form a plan to stop his attempts to grab you. If he always does it at a certain time of day, bring some friends with you and have them stand around you so that he can't get to you. If he still tries, let him know that your waist is off limits to him, and have your friends chime in. There is power in numbers. |
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Try to talk to him calmly and privately. He might be trying to act tough in front of his friends or it may be his awkward way of showing that he likes you too. Tell him that you don't appreciate that treatment. Let him know that you won't ever go out with him if he continues to do this. Then if he stops, you can see about acting on your feelings. |
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I know you really like this boy, but it doesn't sound like he is respectful, and you don't want to date guys who don't respect you! Recognize your self-worth and realize that you deserve respect! Tell him in no uncertain terms to back off! He's not being nice to you, so don't be so nice to him. |
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50% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
If he keeps doing things that make you uncomfortable even though you told him to stop, you should completely forget about this guy. If he doesn't respect you now, imagine what he could do if you actually get into a relationship with him? Guys like that aren't worth your time, no matter how cute they are. Respect yourself by not letting others treat you wrong. And don't worry about not having a boyfriend, there are plenty of guys out there and you have plenty of time ahead of you to choose the right one. Take care! You need to let him know that it is not okay that he is doing this. This could go either way, talk to him and ask if he likes you, and if he does, figure out a way for him to show that he likes you without making you feel uncomfortable. I think that you should tell this guy what you think and if he doesn't listen and try to change, then I don't think he deserves you. He should understand that you need your space, and should realize that you feel uncomfortable, if he doesn't, you can get a better guy who respects you more. ~Hottlily
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