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• Dear Chelsey, It seems like you've been bottling up your feelings for too long and this is why you're suddenly doing all these bad things. It's time that you talk to your mum about the amount of time she's spending away from you, and if maybe it would be better if you lived with your dad for maybe a few weeks, to see which home you feel better in. If this maybe isn't possible, you need to tell her your feelings, especially about all the modeling; because it seems to me that your feeling a little neglected! Good luck and don't be afraid! What's the worst that could happen? :) Laurie-Ann x

• Hey Chelsey, I'm 14 and I come from New Zealand. My parents have been separated for just over a year now and will soon be divorced. At first I found it really hard but I found that my friends were a big support. Try talking to your closest friends about it. Don't worry, they'll understand and help you get through your tough times. Also, try talking to your parents about it. Sit down with them and ask them to just take the time to listen to what you have to say. Then maybe you guys can come up with something to work around everything that's going on. You could ring your dad every night just to say goodnight and that you miss and love him. Ok I know that's a lot!! I hope it helps anyway. Good luck and all the best! Remember, there is always someone there for you.

• I think you should look for a psychologist. It does not mean you are crazy, it is just a way to let your anger out, and you need someone to talk about stuff. The psychologist will help you out little by little and I'll guarantee you that you will feel better.

• Next time you feel like blowing off some steam run to your room and punch and scream and kick into your pillow. This way you let off steam, nobody gets hurt, and nothing gets broken. If you are not at home and are in a store or at school, try taking deep breaths. If that doesn't work, try talking to someone like your school counselor or mom. They may not fix everything but you will probably feel a lot better.

• I know how you feel Chelsey. It must be terrible not having any attention paid to your needs. So if it helps, why don't you see a counselor to get it all off your chest? It can help sometimes talking to someone who you don't know and who can help you and give you advice. Or talk to a family member; if you have older brothers or sisters maybe ask them to help. Or write your mum a letter and tell her how stressed you feel and how much you're suffering from the divorce. Don't suffer in silence. There are people who can help. You go girl, SPEAK OUT! Show them what you're made of. From Katie age 15.

• My mum and dad got divorced too Chelsey, and it was really tough on me. As I got older, however, I realized that it was better for them to go their separate ways than stay together even though it wasn't meant to be. In some relationships things change between people but it will never mean that either of your parents will stop loving *you*. Remember that if you're ever upset, talk about your feelings to someone and keep a journal. And remember you're not alone. There are lots of people out there that love to help and have gone through the same thing as you. Never despair.

• Hi Chelsey, Try getting involved in clubs and other opportunities. Try not to be too hard on the ones you love. Find out about some clubs online, in the phone book, or from friends and family. Do volunteering jobs at your local hospital or Red Cross courses. You'll feel so much better about yourself and you'll be making a difference in people's lives as well. For now write a letter to your mum how you're feeling and get in touch with your dad and ask if you can stay with him for a bit.

• Don't feel alone; you're not alone. Girls everywhere feel the same way as you, so don't feel alone. We're all behind you Chelsey.

• You need to talk to both of your parents and find out ways to spend time with them. Maybe you could spend time with each of them regularly doing something you both have in common. Also, you should talk to another adult, like an aunt or grandma, and see if they can talk to your parents. Even if you don't realize it, both your parents love you lots!

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