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Results for 07/08/2005 to 07/18/2005
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Last week, uhh...i have a blabber mouth friend.... said:
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"Oh No!
I've been keeping this to myself since June. I have a crush on this guy in class, and I can't tell my friends because they're going to say "YUCK! You have a crush on him?" because they think my crush is ugly! I have a crush him because he's very nice to me even though he can be less than friendly to my friends. Should I tell my friends that I like him?"
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290 SmartGirls replied:
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You might want to be cautious about who you tell about your crush. If this boy isn't very nice to other girls, chances are, your friends are going to think you're pretty crazy for liking someone who's mean. So just try to forget about him. Anyway, if he's mean to other girls now, he might start acting mean to you someday, and no one wants a boyfriend who doesn't treat them nicely. |
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You should definitely tell your friends how you feel about this guy. If you like him, that's all that matters, and your friends should be able to accept that. It doesn't matter what he looks like on the outside - it's his personality that counts! And as long as he makes you feel great and special, your friends should be happy for you. |
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Think twice before telling your friends about this boy unless you want the whole school to find out you like him! And if that happens, everyone will know that you like someone for their personality and not their physical appearance. Come on, everyone knows that personality is overrated. It's what's on the outside that counts! |
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Go ahead and tell your friends about this boy. Who cares if they don't approve of your crush? By letting everyone know how you feel, you'll not only help yourself to feel better, but you'll help people to understand him as well. If everyone thinks he's just plain mean, by telling people how nice he is to you, you'll be showing everyone a different side of him. Who knows? Maybe once his true nice side has been exposed, he'll stop being mean to all the other girls and your schoolmates will think he's the sweetest guy ever. |
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46% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Tell them! If they make fun of your crush, then what good of friends are they? It is not so bad that they tell him. It might be a greater opportunity of getting to know him. And if people start teasing you, don't let it bother you. It's your call. Write down on a piece of paper how you would benefit from telling your friends, and how you would benefit telling no one! That should help! Well, if he is mean to other girls he just may turn out to be mean to you. Peronally I think that if your friends think that looks is what it's all about, they need to start looking a little deeper. You may need to talk to your friends about it. After all, if you can't tell your friends, who can you tell? One more thing. If your friends are really your friends they will respect your feelings. Speak to the guy. Hang out with him a little more. Find out what he's really like. And yeah, I know what you mean. My friends care a lot more about looks than I do. If he's nice, go for it. It's hard enough finding a guy who's mature enough to hold a conversation with. Tell him that you like him, if you want to. Don't tell your friends, they just might make it bad for you, people in this world can do mean things. If your going tell someone, tell him.
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