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Results for 05/16/2005 to 06/01/2005
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Last week, casted out said:
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"I'm jealous of my best friend having a girlfriend
My best friend is a boy. I hang out with him every day, and people think we like each other, but we don't. That's not the problem. I'm jealous that he has this new girlfriend. I'm not in love with him, it's just that when he acts like he's protecting her and she winks at him, it makes me so mad! I've been thinking of telling him how I feel, but it won't come out. I need some help!"
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597 SmartGirls replied:
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Why are you getting so mad at your best friend and his girlfriend flirting with each other if you don't have any sort of crush on your best friend? Sounds to me like you've got a bit of a crush on this best friend of yours! It's time to let out those feelings to him. If you can't confess your feelings to him face-to-face, you could write it in a note, call him, or e-mail him. Muster up the courage and let it all out! |
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Have one of your trusted girl friends tell him how it bothers you when he flirts with his girlfriend in front of you. Hopefully, he'll get the message, and you won't even have to tell him how jealous you get when his girlfriend is around. |
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Sounds like you may not like having to share your best friend and that's why you are jealous. Try talking to him about it and let him now that you don't want to lose his friendship. |
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Wouldn't it be terrible if you told your best friend how jealous you get when his girlfriend flirts with him, and he got worried that you were in love with him, and everything got so awkward? My advice-- don't tell him how you feel. Just look away when they get all lovey-dovey in front of you. |
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49% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
We are all jealous of somebody - it may be our siblings or a celebrity - but you just have to accept that you can't be the only favourite girl in your best friend's life. If it gets any worse, just tell him because staying silent isn't going to get you anywhere, is it? And as for the winking and being over-protective, it's so totally normal! Each relationship has a secretive language between the two of them, so you will just have to ACCEPT IT!!!!!!! Stay happy!!! ~ Hannah You shouldn't be jealous of your best friend flirting with his girlfriend. How would you feel if he got jealous of you and told you not to flirt with your boyfriend? Think of it that way. Ok! First off, do not do anything rash and stay away from the sexy perfumes! Just joking, but really, if you tell him how you feel now, it will really get ugly. Not only because he may or may not like you, but the girlfriend will so dislike you. And she won't even let you near your guy friend. So my advice is to just let things go for awhile, and if it still bugs you to see them together, tell him out straight how you feel - just be prepared for the jealous girlfriend. You know what? You guys are friends and that is all that matters, you know? He has a girl friend, sure, but that doesn't mean he cast you out of his life, right? I went through the same problem and I understand how you feel. Leave it alone for now. Think about what you both want. You know that you guys aren't interested in each other, so just pay attention to spending time with him as a friend. If this doesn't work, tell him how you feel. I know it will be nerve wracking and all but you need to come clean, otherwise this will cause dents in your friendship. I am sure he will not get mad if he is a real friend. He will take your opinion and use it wisely. ~ Ally I had a situation like this once. My best friend, a guy, started going out with someone I really didn't like. I didn't like him either but when I told him how I felt, I realized I liked him. He ended up dumping her and we went out after that. It is not a matter of being jealous because he has a girlfriend. Maybe you are jealous deep down inside because he probably doesn't hang out with you like he used to. I have had a similar experience. The best thing to do is to tell your best friend while you still have the chance to because the way things are sounding, in a while, your best friend WILL be blowing you off for his girlfriend. And that is unnecessary. Just say something and if it doesn't work, there are other people at your school. Join another group because it is always good to get out and experience something new every once in a while. ~ babygirl4lizzife916 You know, the one thing you should think of most when you think about your problem is that hes YOUR best friend. Just remember, he's YOUR best friend, and you are his best friend too. Just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean you aren't best friends anymore. It's a boy's life to have a girlfriend, but it's ALSO his life to have a best friend.
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