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Results for 02/03/2006 to 02/13/2006
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Last week, holzy said:
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"Who gets the boy?
I have just started secondary school and I have met this boy called "Seb". My friend likes him, but so do I! My friend flirts around him to make me jealous. What shall I do about my friend?"
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492 SmartGirls replied:
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You should fight fire with fire by flirting with Seb yourself. If your friend can make you jealous, you have the right to make her jealous, too. And who knows? Maybe Seb will become interested in you once he knows you're into him! |
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Ask your friend if she really likes Seb or if she's just flirting with him to make you jealous. If she really likes Seb, too, you both should write him notes and ask if he likes you. That way, you'll know how he feels about both of you. This may help change your feelings as well as your friend's! |
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Is your friendship really worth sacrificing over a boy? Talk to your friend; ask her if she thinks Seb is worth fighting over and risking your friendship. Hopefully, you'll both realize that friends are far more important than crushes. |
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What?! Doesn't your friend know that Seb is your boy? Confront your friend, take a stand, and come out claiming victory. After all, you saw him first. |
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49% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
To tell the truth, all I can give you is advice. You are the only one who can really choose what you are going to do about it. If your girlfriend flirts with him knowing you like him, then first off, that's not a true friend. Second, if you really want her friendship then you should still talk to her about it, see what she thinks, then decide. If she really does like him and you really do like him, then discuss it with him. Tell him that you like him. Tell your girlfriend to tell him she likes him also, but don't let her make you mad over a boy. No boy is worth a small time argument that you could end up regretting, so just go talk to him, get to know him, and just have fun. It's not like you need marriage right now. You are twelve, so just have fun. Holzy, your friend's behaviour sounds totally immature. She can't be a real friend if she keeps on trying to flirt with Seb behind your back. Confront her about how her foolish behaviour is, and tell her it's affecting you and your confidence. If things don't improve then I suggest ignoring Seb and your friend and join some new clubs at school to attract new friendships. Go on girl, you can do it! From Katie, age 15. Lots of people have been in the same position as you, and I have too. Although it may seem because your friend is flirting around him that he'll like her better, it's not always true. My friend kept on flirting around the boy I liked, but I didn't do that. I just talked and laughed with him normally. Soon we became good friends, and then eventually he told me he liked me. Remember, acting sexy and flirty doesn't always get the boy you like. And this so-called "friend" of yours should not be flirting around him to make you jealous. What she's doing is a very spiteful thing to do, and you should tell her that. If she's normally a really great friend then tell her you don't want to ruin your friendship over this boy. There will be about a thousand boys after "Seb" that you will like, so don't worry, and good luck! - Laurie-Ann x :) Holzy, your friend may like him but who says he likes her? If he is meant for you, he will be yours, and there's no need to fight over him because all it does is cause hurt and pain. If he is not meant for you, move on, and your lover will come somewhere, sometime, some place. I think that any girl who would deliberately do that to hurt her you, isn't friend material. If she makes you jealous on purpose, I think you need to consider her friendship. Talk to her first. But if it's obvious that she is trying to hurt you, I think you should stay away from her for a while until she gets her senses back. Also, I think you should stay away frpm your crush for a little while too. If she is only doing it to make you jealous, act like you're so over him. If you don't pay attention to her, she will probably get bored and stop. You shouldn't lose a friend over a guy, but if she is willing to by hurting you, I think you need to lose her. Try being yourself and if that doesn't work, he may not be the guy for you. I bet there are heaps cuter guys out there. You just have to look hard enough. It was a little mean of your friend but I don't think it was entirely her fault. Keep the friendship with Seb and your friend :D Talk to your friend about this. It's no use fighting over him if he is not really worth it. Let your friend have him if she really wants him because to love somebody is to give them happiness. Even if you do get him, how do you think your friend will feel? As they say, what goes around comes around... Just wait a while and see what turns up. Chances are that if she does get hooked up, it won't last very long anyways. Then he's all yours!! You need to sit down and explain that you both fancy him, but he just isn't worth messing up your friendship. This happened to me and my best mate and although I'm with the boy now and she's not angry, we're not as close as we were and I really regret it. I thought I loved this guy but I didn't. Think carefully. - Aurora First off, is he sending either one of you signals? If you think he is, talk to him. Just you and him. Ask him if he's into you and he can tell you yes or no. If the answer is no, than you can find out before you get your hopes up and fight over a boy who might not like you and as a result, lose the guy and lose your friend.
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