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Results for 04/28/2005 to 05/02/2005
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Last week, Leah137 said:
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"No period yet
I'm 13, and I just started puberty. All the other girls in my grade already have their periods. Since I do not have mine, they tease me about it. Lately the teasing has gotten worse, what should I do?"
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270 SmartGirls replied:
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Sink to the level of the girls who are teasing you. Find something to make fun of them about until everyone is embarrassed and upset. Make them feel as bad as you do because maybe they will finally see how it feels. It is better to get even with them than to be mature and ignore their thoughtless comments. |
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Find new friends girl! You should start spending time with girls who are younger than you so you are on the same physical level. Even if you don't have anything in common with the younger girls, getting your period at the same time is the most important thing for a good friendship. |
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Stay in your room and never come out until you get your period. Or if it takes more years (which is normal) you could just lie and tell everyone you have your period even though you don't. |
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Sit down with the girls who are teasing you, and even maybe a teacher, and explain to them that their teasing hurts your feelings. Also, explain to them that everyone develops at different times and it is something you have no control over. You can also mention all the other things you have in common with them like books, music, and television. Try to take the focus away from your period and shift it to more important topics that you can share. |
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61% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
You didnt do anything!! They are trying to show that they are so much more mature than you by having their periods, but just because their bodies have matured does not mean their minds have matured. Next time they say something, just say that although your body hasnt matured completely, you are happy and you act mature which is what counts! And that maybe if they have their periods, they can stop acting so silly and act their age!! Well, I dont know why they are even making fun of you because having your period is NO FUN at all. So they might even be jealous of the fact that you dont have to deal with everything yet? I'm sure youre not the only girl in your grade who doesnt have it...its normal for some girls not to start till 15 or 16. So dont worry. Everyones different. Also, find some people who do not like to talk about their periods. Not everyone wants to and they'd probably make good friends because then you wouldnt have to talk about it or listen to them talk about it. Good luck Leah! Everyone develops differently. You've hit puberty but haven't gotten your period yet. That's okay. You need to tell the girls that are bothering you that it hurts you and maybe they'll stop. If they continue to be immature and mean, try your hardest to ignore them. Just think about this: You'll get your period when you get it. There's no rush. It's not that fun, anyways. You'll get cramps, bloating, mood swings, and sometimes it'll get a little messy. Consider yourself lucky to develop certain things at a different time. All that matters is what you think. Not what those mean girls are saying! Be yourself and focus on being happy. First, learn to laugh at yourself. Its okay to make light of the situation and laugh WITH them. Your period will come in due time. I know some people who didn't start until they were 18, and they are beautiful and happy. Also, they didnt have to worry about a period all through high school and junior high. Its actually a burden if you think about it. Pain and bleeding is not something to brag about. You can say something back to them also, like: "Well, at least I'm not bleeding all the time and cramping - it cant be THAT great!" I don't really agree with any of the choices above! I no how hard it is to be last and how hard it is to talk to someone about this subject, even though it is a good idea! I think that you should just tell them next time they tease you, "You no what, I really hate being teased by you so just cut it out!" or something along those lines! Just make sure it's not too mean because you don't want to get in a fight about it. All you have to do is ignore them and stop hanging around them because obviously if they continue to make fun of you they aren't real friends. But one main suggestion is to not make fun of them back because that will make you just as immature as them. Keep your head up and don't let anyone ever bring you down just because youre different. Try and talk to your friends and tell them that some girls mature faster than others, but they can't help you to get your period by teasing you. Don't try and rush yourself because it just makes it seem longer, and then you just get frustrated and try and rush it some more. For a while I had the same problem and still kind of do - even though I already started. My friends just assume I haven't started. You really just need to ignore them or tell them big deal, just because I haven't started doesn't really make me different anyways. That's what doesn't count, what counts is who YOU are not what your BODY is. Maybe you should hang out with different friends who like you just for who YOU are. Hope that this helps!
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