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Results for 03/10/2005 to 03/18/2005

Last week, Gina said:

"I ignored his flirting

The other day I went to my crush (whom I love so much) and returned an item, which he let me borrow. He was flirting with me and I didn't even realize until afterward! He was interested in talking to me, but I just turned my back on it! I feel so guilty and shameful. He asked how I was and I said "see you." The problem is, now I want to say sorry, but there are always people around him or he's busy. Please help me!! What should I do?"

 

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344 SmartGirls replied:

18% Give it some time. If he's interested in you, he'll strike up a conversation with you sooner or later! And remember, if he hasn't gotten over your mild back-turning incident, then it's his loss!
20% If you want to say sorry, why not do it? There's never a bad time to apologize. You could pull him aside while he's on his way to class or you could write him a note and stick it in his locker. This time, he'll get to know the real you!
2% If he can't get over not hanging onto his every words then he's just not worth your time. There are plenty of other cute fish in the sea (who will forget about the one-time blow-off). Hang in there and wait for another guy!
14% E-mail him, call him, wait for him at his house, bake him an "I'm Sorry" cake, do SOMETHING! This guy may be the love of your life! Don't let him slip away due to an accidental brush-off.

46% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:

  • First of all, you should be happy! Your crush was flirting with you, which means that he knows your alive lol! You say that he was interested in talking to you - then strike up another conversation with him! Casually go up to him and just say hi to start off with. Try not to feel pressured to say the right things, just be the real you and see how things go. He's bound to be so happy that your interested in him as well! For most guys, confidence is the most attractive thing in a girl. Not how short her skirt is. Like I said before, just be yourself. Try flirting with him and see how he reacts. How could he not forgive you then?! Good luck! Lv quinnno1fan

  • Oh come on, if he was flirting with you, flirt with him!!! It's like me with my crush, we're flirtig all the time but it's friendly flirting, not like dirty stuff, cause that would be horrible! mcflyluver x x x

  • Dear Gina,

  • I don't think that you should follow any of the advices above. The first and second advice make it seem like he did something wrong. I mean, some people are very sensitive and they get offended when people brush them off. The third one's a little extreme. An "I'm sorry cake?" come on! Apologize to him as soon as you can. If he's busy then just go up to him, be polite, tell him you need to talk to him and apologize.

  • gl:)

  • Dear Gina, I really don't think there's any need at all for you to apoligize. Okay, maybe you didn't reply to his flirting but it was an accident. There's plenty of ways to say sorry plus get him to notice you without actually saying sorry. Flash him a smile from time to time or try and strike up a conversation with him. Why not do some flirting yourself! But I really really think you should be saying sorry. And if he doesn't accept ur friendship...then forget him! (I doubt he will though) good luck!

  • It's not that big of a deal. If he really likes you, he'll call you or E-mail you or something. Don't worry so much. Who ever said love was easy?

  • I think that you should get him alone and try to talk to him. You can call him or email him. But it is best to do it face to face. You need to stop blowing him off. He is interested in you. Maybe, you are scared to talk to him. Is there a possibility that u might like him? Just take time alone to talk to him!! Jamicka, 14

  • Dear Gina, The bad point about a brush-off like that makes you look like your not interested. But there is also a good point about what you did because (if your crush likes you back) this will make your crush think you are playing hard to get, which will make him want you more. The best thing to do is if he comes up to you again, just remember to be nice to him and then hopefully he'll forget about the brush-off! Be Happy and Smile! Laurie-Ann

  • Sometimes you've just got to bite the bullet and go for it Gina! I reckon you should do just that and go talk to him. He obviously likes you so why not? And you've got nothing to lose! Go girl! Luv Babycakes x

  • If he really does like you he will talk to you again, or you can talk to him. Find out his e-mail address, phone number, ask if you can talk to him, or let him know you want to talk to him and maybe go somewhere after school.

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