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Results for 03/29/2005 to 04/13/2005
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Last week, Mel said:
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"Love?
One of my friends just told me he loved me, but I don't feel the same way. I just want to be friends with him, but I don't know what to say to him. Will it be too awkward if I say no? Help me please!"
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686 SmartGirls replied:
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Lie to him and tell him that you love him too. It is better to give him hope than tell him the truth. If he's your friend you will do anything he wants. Your own feelings should come second and are not as important as your friend. |
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Tell him you'll think about it. Even though you already know how you feel, make him wait weeks before you give him an answer. While he's waiting for your answer you should flirt with other boys to get him mad. This will hopefully give him a hint to your answer. |
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Tell him the truth. Be honest about your feelings while also being careful not to hurt him more than you have to by choosing your words carefully. Tell him you are flattered he feels that way about you, but you would rather just remain friends. Make sure he knows you value your relationship and that you do not want to lose him as a friend. |
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Never talk to him again. Now that he told you he loves you, things will never be the same. It was a bad decision for him to be honest with you. He was a bad friend and there is no way to continue without it being awkward between you. |
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39% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
I feel that if you don't love that person, you shouldn't keep that person in the dark about it. Have a one on one conversation with the person expressing how you really feel for that person, but don't ever lie because that's how feelings get hurt. Just do what you feel is right. Do what you know is right. I have a really close male friend, and everyone thinks that we're going out *we're not*. He said that he loved me, and I love him too, but I just love him as a friend. Even after he said that, nothing changed between us. We're still great friends, and nothing will change that. Talk to your friend, tell him that you're flattered, but you just want to stay mates. Chances are, he'll feel the same way. If you've got a good thing going with him, don't spoil it by ignoring him completely. He's good for those times when you feel a little scruffy, and when you need some lad advice from the horse's mouth. Good luck Mel, a male friend is a great thing to have, so hold onto a good one. Lv quinnno1fan That's an awkward situation, no matter how you handle it. But the best way to handle it is to just be honest with him. If you don't, then he may think you feel the same way abut him. Let him know that you just want to be friends. Hopefully things will all work out and you two can still be good friends. Good luck! I know exactly how this boy is feeling as I was in the same situation with my best boy mate a couple of months ago. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone that, even more so as they are your friend, and you are risking a lot more than a broken heart. You need to let him down gently; make sure he knows it's not his fault and stress that you want to stay friends. In the long run, it may make your friendship stronger. Good luck hun! If you do not like him, tell him. He should respect that as your friend. If he doesn't, that's too bad.
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