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Results for 02/01/2005 to 02/08/2005
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Last week, kirsti said:
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"Bullying
There is this boy in my class and sometimes we get along just fine, but sometimes he just starts abusing me and being a bit of a bully. He pushes me, shoves me, makes up horrible rumors, and I always try to stand up to him, but it never works. Please help, SmartGirl!"
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290 SmartGirls replied:
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Don't waste your energy trying to talk to him anymore; he obviously won't listen. Tell an authority figure (like a parent or teacher) what's going on and let them handle the situation. |
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You don't have to put up with this. If he pushes you, push him back. If he calls you names, call him names. Show him that you're not afraid, and maybe he will back down. |
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Ignore him. He probably enjoys bullying you because you respond to it. Eventually, if you stop paying attention to his immature behavior, he will get bored and leave you alone. |
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The next time you find yourself being bullied, confront him face-to-face and calmly explain to him just how much his bullying bothers you. Sometimes it's hard for boys to know how much is too much. If he knows he is really hurting you, he will probably stop. |
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49% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
I bet people will tell you to ignore him, but I have tried and it doesn't always work. You really to have to stand up to him and be strong. For example, think tonight what you will say to him tomorrow and then go up to him and set him straight. Remember, YOU are in control and you can do and say anything! ~love Roberta~ This is happening a bit to my friend. You should ignore him, he's only doing it for attention. But if he still does tell someone. Get one of your mates to talk to him in private so they can tell him to stop. Don't let people fight about it. Good luck. :) Dear Kirsti, All bullying is wrong and even though you might feel like this boy hates you, boys act wierd around girls they like. Next time he does anything like this again just say to him do you know how childish you look when you bully people. See if that shuts him up! First of all, don't feel bad for not being able to stand up to him. It is normal to feel scared about that. You should just try to tell a teacher, a parent, or an adult about this. Maybe you could even talk to the principal about this if it takes place at school. You could also try to have an adult call his parents, or guardians. I hope that my advise works. What is his problem? I think he has some issues like he probably likes you. That's how most boys usually treat girls they like. So for now just ignore the guy. Let him do whatever he wants except if it gets hurtful then you do what you got to do I think this boy is just after attention. Please don't worry- I had the same problem, so I told my teacher and now he doesn't say anything! This boy obviously thinks that he's much better than you. But nobody and i mean NOBODY puts up with that rubbish. If you've ever heard of the anti-bullying campaign, encourage all your friends and other people to wear the blue bands. It shows that nobody likes bullies and everybody thinks they're cowards. I've been bullied but I overcame mine because I'm not a coward and I stood up to them. My life has never been better! -Laurie-Ann
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