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Results for 08/09/2005 to 08/18/2005
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Last week, girl in love said:
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"Does he still care?
I have this boyfriend who says he loves me, and you can tell that he means it by the way he says it. We've been together for 5 months but we have been off and on for 4 years. Recently, he has been really close to this girl and claims that they're just "friends." I mean, he walks her to class and sometimes does not even talk to me in lunch because he's talking to her. What does this mean? Does he still love me?"
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344 SmartGirls replied:
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It is very normal for a guy to have other girls who are just friends. You are getting way too jealous for no reason at all. Try to be more understanding of his friendships and go with your instincts. If you know he means it when he says he loves you, then you have nothing to worry about! |
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Ask yourself why your relationship has been on and off for four years. If situations like this tend to break you two apart and he still has not changed, then it is time to consider ending the relationship for good. |
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If you have been dating him for awhile, you should have no problem sitting down and talking with him about your feelings. Let him know that it bothers you when he pays more attention to other girls. Tell him that you do not want him to stop being friends with girls, just that you do not want him to flirt with them and act nicer to them than he does to his own girlfriend! If he does not change his behavior after you talk with him, you may want to consider ending the relationship. |
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You better check him! It sounds like he is either cheating on you or thinking about cheating on you. In which case, you should tell him that you will not tolerate his disrespect and if he continues to pull stunts like ignoring you in the cafeteria and spending more time with other girls, then you WILL dump him! |
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42% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Talk to your boyfriend about this girl. If he really loves you, then he should be able to tell you the truth about this girl and you should be able to trust him. Don't get all freaky or it will scare him away! I would see if they get more serious over time, if so you definitely have something to worry about. It is normal for boys to have girls who are friends, though, so don't worry too much about it. If he starts hanging out with her more than you, though, then you should start to worry. You are only 16, why waste your time worried about this one guy. If he truly loves you he will want to spend all of his time with you and not some other girl. You have a lot of people to meet in your life so don't get hung-up over this one!!! Eliz. Do you have guys that have girlfriends and treat you like you are more important than their girls? Me neither...I would confront him about this. If he isn't willing to talk about it, then he obviously doesn't care about you and it is time to move on. Why have you two been on and off for so long? Seems like you are trying to hold on to a relationship that just wasn't meant to be. It's time to move on before he hurts you!
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