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Results for 01/04/2005 to 01/18/2005
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Last week, gurly gurl said:
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"Should I be his girl?
A really cute guy asked me to be his girlfriend last week. I want to say yes because he's really nice, but the problem is my parents. I am not supposed to date and stuff because for my parents it's just wrong!!!!!! I don't want to betray my parents or miss the moment of my life! What should I do?"
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622 SmartGirls replied:
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Talk to the boy and find out what he says about your situation. See if he understands and if he's willing to wait for you until your parents are ready for you to date. |
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Is this guy worth disobeying your parents for? Is he worth the fights and arguments that you'll have with your parents if you go out with him? If your answer is "yes" to both of these questions, then go for it. If you don't, you may lose your chance with him forever. |
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Tell your parents about this boy. If you're upfront about him from the beginning and don't hide your feelings from your parents, then maybe they will understand the situation better. Maybe you can even let them meet him. If they see for themselves what a nice guy he is, they might agree to let the two of you go out. |
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You are still young and will have plenty of opportunities to date. Just because he's really nice doesn't mean that he's "the one" who you'll spend the rest of your life with. You should think about just being his friend for now. |
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46% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
I think you should tell you parents just what you told us. I know it is hard, I still don't have enough courage to tell my parents that I am head over heels for a guy but it really is up to you! Good luck. God Bless! Dear gurly gurl, Like you I'm not allowed to date guys either. I don't think that you should go out with this boy. So what, you miss this one chance but there'll be many more. You need to respect your parent's decisions to not let you date boys. If you don't respect and obey their priorities how do you expect them to respect yours. violette Look I think you should talk to this boy and tell him your situation, see what he thinks about this. But if you really like him and you are willing to betray your parents and disobey them then go ahead, but I say you should think about it first. I am also 13 and have had a boyfriend behind my parents and I got in lots of trouble and I don't want that for you because then you will lose their trust. That's my opinion. bye eve What I would do is ask you're parents if they'd be willing to part with 15 min of their time to meet with this boy. First make sure that this boy is willing to meet with your parents. Parents get worried about dating, and if you are to embarassed to bring home this boy then you know that it's probably not such a great idea to date him.
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