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Results for 06/30/2005 to 07/08/2005
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Last week, Faith said:
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"Bullied by my mates
Two girls in my class are my friends one day, then really horrible the next. They slag me about the size of the clothes I wear, embarrassing things that have happened to me and stuff I say. They can take the words out of my mouth and change them around to make me look really stupid, but then get annoyed when I go off with other people. I have no idea how to get rid of them! Please help!"
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306 SmartGirls replied:
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When it comes to situations like this, the best thing you can do is ignore them. They probably behave this way because they want to get under your skin. But if you keep a cool, calm attitude, they'll eventually get bored and move on. |
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Get back at them in the same ways they've gotten to you. It may not be the most mature approach, but if you give them a hard time, maybe they'll back off once and for all. |
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Take the direct approach. Calmly confront the girls and tell them just how their cruel behavior makes you feel. Explain to them that you would like to be their friend, but not if they insist on acting like children. |
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Don't stand for that kind of treatment--talk to a parent, teacher, or someone of authority and see if they can put a stop to the situation. |
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52% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Those girls are just jealous and they need no reason to fight. You'll just have to ignore them and get on with your life. Socialize with other people and make new friends. If that doesn't work, complain about them to your teacher or parents. There are such girls in my class too. But I've just ignored them and they too are by themselves. Make cool friends. The best treatment that will get to them is to just pretend that they are invisible. They'll see that it's not getting to you, and this will bug them. Trust me, it works, I've done this before to a girl. Act cool and laugh with friends and they'll see that they're not bothering you. Good luck. Kat. You should stand up to them and tell them that it's your life, and you want to control it, so stop getting mad when you hang out with other people because they're not your parents! Also, you need to tell them that the stuff they say about you is rude and if they're gonna keep saying stuff, then you don't have to be friends with them, and they need to stop being rude because what if someone was saying stuff about them, you would try to make things better by cheering them up! That's what you should do! I say that first you should talk to a adult that you can trust such as your mom, dad, older sibling, teacher whoever. Talk to them about your problems. I know that with my younger nephew and some other friends is that they get pleasure out of watching you feel stupid. Sometimes just ignoring them can help. Their amusement will be gone and they will hopefully stop what they are doing. And you can always try to talk to them about what they are doing. Sharon I'd do this:
1. Tell a parent, teacher or someone else about this problem, regardless. They'll help you with this problem and step in if things get worse.
2. Tell them to stop.
3. If they don't stop, ditch 'em.
However, if this problem has been going on for a long time and you've told them to stop and they haven't, dump 'em. I've been teased before, so I can relate. Emeraldgirl
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