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Results for 11/08/2004 to 11/16/2004
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Last week, Robyn said:
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"High School
Next year, I'm going to high school. The problem is that all my friends are going to a different school than I am. I am feeling really left out. I'm going to this other school for many reasons (one of them is to please my parents). If all my friends weren't going to this other school, I would have never even thought about it. My problems are that I don't know anyone who's going to my new high school, and I still really want to keep in touch with my friends."
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330 SmartGirls replied:
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Act miserable all the time so that your parents understand how much you would rather go to the other school. |
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See the bright side of things!!! You will get to meet all new friends! You can use this as an opportunity to meet an entirely new group of friends while still maintaining your old friendships. Now you will have double the friends! |
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Talk to your parents. Tell them how you are feeling about your new school and why you would rather go to a different school. |
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Tell your friends that you are feeling really left out. They might not even realize that you are feeling bad. You and your friends can then come up with strategies to remain close and ensure long-lasting friendships even though you will be at different schools! |
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56% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Okay, this is the only advice I have, I'm new at my school and barely see my friends at school, the only thing I can do is hold my head up high, and make more friends. Try to talk to someone, ask about them, score some numbers, call friends from your old school after school, so you don't feel as left out. That's what I do. Plan sleepovers with lots of your friends from the other schools, and even your new one. Love: sarah g Well I think you should just focus mainly on your work for now. I know thats hard to understand, but believe me I went through the same thing. People will start talking to you. I'm sure your teachers will make you do group work so when you pair off in a group just start up a conversation. Oh and there is always that major invention called the "TELEPHONE". Try to e-mail them, call them, and mail them by post whenever you can. That way you can keep in touch with them. But you should also make new friends and don't be shy. But don't forget to keep up with your school work. It may sound like a lot, but it isn't too much. I hope you get out of this situation for the better, and I hope you do well. Don't worry I am in exactly the same position as you. I think you should go to this new school cause it's a great opportunity to make new friends and you can still hang out with your other friends on the weekends. You should just walk into that new school and strut your stuff. When you go to high school, everyone feels like that. The teachers will do their best to get everyone to know each other and it will be a chance to make new friends! At the start it will seem so new but there's bound to be someone else in your position. Just go out and make new friends!! I faced the same situation last year. I went to a school where absolutley no one knew me. Now I am very happy I did. You can always make new friends. Everyone in their freshman year of high school feels the same way...alone. It is much easier to make friends because you all relate to each other in that one aspect. If you are going to a school to please your parents I am guessing it is a good school. Remember, opportunity only knocks once. And keep in touch with your friends, life is not just school.
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