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Results for 11/01/2004 to 11/08/2004
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Last week, shy gal said:
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"I'm shy
My mum is not the type of mum you can talk to about everything and I'm really shy around her with this sort of stuff. Please help! All my mates have bras and have started their periods but I haven't started mine. My mum hasn't bought me a bra yet and I don't want to ask her about it because I'm too shy, but I want one really badly. What can I say to her?"
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431 SmartGirls replied:
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Gather up all of your courage and bring up the issue with your mum. The hardest part is starting the conversation, but there will be other issues you will need her help with in the future, and it is good to start having honest talks with her now. |
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Ask one of your friends or family members to talk to your mum about it. Sometimes this is best approach because you don't have to talk to her directly. |
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Dont ask your mum about it. She will figure it out on her own that you need a bra. Give it time and stop worrying about it for now. |
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Be sneaky girl! Save up your money and go with some friends to buy a bra for yourself. You are an independent woman even if you're too shy to chat about it. |
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47% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
Think about it - do you really need a bra, or do you just wan't one because your friends have one? If you need one, then you just have to pluck up the courage to tell her! When I started my periods, I paced around my room for 15 minutes before finally going to tell her! It's a matter of confidence. Take deep breaths, then when you talk to her, speak calmly and seriously. She should get your point. If you don't need one, your mom will say that, and she'll take you to get one when you do. Everyone develops at their own pace in their own time, so don't feel left-out if you are a bit slower than the others. You're perfectly normal. Good luck, and GO FOR IT gal! lv quinnno1fan Hey babes! I was the same at your age. I'm 16 now, but I was way too embarrassed to talk to my mum about that sorta stuff, so when I started my periods I wrote a letter and posted it under her bedroom door. Letters are great for expressing yourself in bad times, as you don't have to talk to people directly but you can still say what you want and get your message across! Good luck! There's nothing wrong with letting your mom know that you need a bra. She's been through the same thing when she was your age. Besides, you should never be afraid to ask your mom something. My mom was patient with me when I needed a bra. Your mom is there to help you when you get older. Trust me, she knew that someday that you would need a bra! I know it's hard to talk to your mom about stuff like that but it's ok. Before you talk to her about anything like that try gathering up information or good reasons to tell her you need to start using a bra. Tell her why you think you should wear one then tell her how you aren't comfortable talking about these things. Then she will understand how much you want this, because you made the point to ask her even though you were uncomfortable. This will definitely help because it worked with my mom when I was 12. Now I'm 13 and my relationship with my mom is better. GOOD LUCK Maybe you should talk to one of your mates about this issue and see what they think about this matter. Or you could ask one of your mates to be there with you when you ask your mom to buy you a bra. Try talking to somebody in your family that you are close to, or a teacher or another grown up. They can maybe help you, by talking with you about what you are feeling with your mum. I hope this will help you.
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