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Results for 09/21/2004 to 09/27/2004
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Last week, Sweetcheeks said:
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"Sex
Well, one day, me and my boyfriend wanted to take our relationship further...but we went too far and ended up having sex. After that, we still talked to each other but the conversation always ended early because he had to do "something" or go "somewhere". But after the 3rd day, it's like he would have nothing to do with me. He didn't even say hi or anything! It's like all he wanted was sex and after he got it he doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. He talks to all these other girls that like him and he even flirts with them! Does he really love me and should I stay with him or should I just move on and leave him? But I love him very much and I don't want to let him go. But it feels like he just brings drama that I don't really need. Then, at the same time, I need him...I need help or advice cause this is my heart that I'm worried about. I don't want to get hurt."
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260 SmartGirls replied:
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Stop worrying about your boyfriend for the moment and put your health first instead. Make an appointment with a doctor to get tested for STDs and to make sure you aren't pregnant. |
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It sounds like he's acting very insensitive and hurtful. As difficult as it may be, you should forget about him and move on sadder but wiser. |
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If you can't get him to talk to you, write him a letter. He can't make any reasonable excuses to avoid reading it and it's easier for most people to express themselves in writing. If he doesn't respond, you'll know it's over. |
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It's possible that there was some sort of misunderstanding. Maybe he doesn't know how to behave around you anymore or he's embarrassed about something. Try to get some private time with him and ask point blank why he's been acting the way he has. Then you can decide if you want to continue in the relationship. |
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46% gave other responses. Some SmartGirls said:
I know how you feel. The same thing happened to me. I was really sad for a while, but then I realized that he wasn't treating me with respect and I decided to move on. I hope this helps! It will hurt at first, but I promise it will get better. *~Crystal~* You need to take care of yourself, before anything else. Surround yourself with your best friends and people that love you. Even if they don't know what happened, it will help to have them around you and help take your mind off of him. Stay away from this boy! It sounds like he doesn't appreciate what he's got. Lily There are lots of guys out there that will treat you way better than this guy is! If he doesn't start talking soon and continues to treat you this way, you should definitely move on. I wouldn't rush into anything too quickly, though. Maggie
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