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Results for 11-MAR-02 to 18-MAR-02
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Last week, Kiara said:
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"My friend has a boyfriend 3 years older than her. The problem is that he is forcing her to do stuff. She has followed so far but now he is asking for her to have sex with him. I'm telling her not to have sex if she does not want to and that there will be more guys. But I'm really worried about her. What should I do?" |
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88 SmartGirls replied:
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Let your friend know you're worried about her and what the consequences of her
actions might be. But, after that, it is her decision. |
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Tell your friend's parent/guardian what is going on. Sex is a pretty
big deal and a parent/guardian might be able to provide more guidance and influence than a friend. |
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Encourage your friend to hang out with people closer to her own age and she might
find that she likes those people better and dump her older boyfriend. |
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Educate your friend on the importance of safer sex and hope that if she decides
to have sex, she will be having safer sex. |
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Some SmartGirls said:
- I was 15 when I first had sex, and it was the same age difference. I regret doing it so young, because there was no need to rush. If the guy its pushing you, put the breaks on. He certaintly doesn't respect you or understand your feelings. Tell your friend to listen to some Aretha Franklin, and realize her true potential!!
- If your friend's b-friend is bugging her to have sex, tell her that he is not good enough for her.
If he is pressuring her into things he shouldn't, that is wrong. Talk to her and tell her how you feel
about this. Tell the school counselor. She might be in danger if you don't.
- Tell her, her body is a gift and if her boyfriend pushes her into things, keeps bringing up the sex subject, and makes her feel uncomfortable, that it's not right and to get out of the situation. He obviously isn't the person to give that gift to! Don't do anything until YOUR'E ready! And think about all the risks.
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