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Last week, Daniela said:

"My boyfriend and I are really happy together. We both love each other very much even though he is 3 years older than me. There is one big problem though. His mom doesn't want us talking because she says I am too young. I keep getting a feeling that he will one day listen to her and stop sneaking out to see me and break up with me. What should I do to try to prevent this from happening?"

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121 SmartGirls replied:

11%	Keep sneaking around! True love knows no age.
37%	Let your boy make his own decision, and don't make him choose between you and his mom.
7%	Listen to his mom. Your age difference is too large since you're so young.
6%	Try to find boys your own age to be friends with and ditch that older guy!

Some SmartGirls said:

If he breaks up with you because of his mom it was never true love. Go get a boy your age and don't worry!

Obviously, this boy's mom has mixed feelings about her child mixing with younger girls. Prove that she can trust you not to mess your boyfriend about by getting to know her. Just be friendly towards her and show that you are genuinely interested in being with your boyfriend, and gradually she will give him more freedom.

Show his mother that you respect her by being mature and just be friends with him. Earn her trust and show her that you are mature. all that sneaking around is doing is proving her point right.

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