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Results for 17-DEC-01 to 14-JAN-02
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Last week, Alisha said:
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"My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend invited him to the semi-formal. He said no to her and asked me instead. I said yes, and now his ex wants to beat me up. She was planning to, but my boyfriend didn't want that to happen, so he told her he'd go out on a date with her if she didn't show up at the dance. He told me he did it because he doesn't want to hurt her "in front of all those people" at the dance if she hits me. This makes me feel like he's choosing to go on a date with her instead of just stopping her from hurting me…It feels like he's choosing her over me. Am I wrong to feel this way? I tried to explain it to him, but he said he made his decision and he's doing what he thinks is right. I feel like he's taking her side over mine. What can I do?" |
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140 SmartGirls replied:
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Find another boyfriend!!! This guy still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend,
and you need to get rid of that loser! |
| 7% |
You're overreacting. Your boyfriend is trying to prevent a fight by going out
with the ex. Let him go so this mess will be over soon. |
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You need to find out if your boyfriend cares more about your feelings or his
ex-girlfriend's feelings. Tell him you don't like his decision and see if you two can work out a better
solution. |
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Tell one of the teachers at the dance to be on the lookout for the ex because
she may try to start a fight. Then, dance the night away with your boy—after he decides not to go out
with the ex. |
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Some SmartGirls said:
- Combo: Tell your boy you don't like his decision, and see if you can get a compromise. If not, I think
you're still okay. If he wanted his ex, you'd KNOW. If a comprimise is cool, tell a teacher or two what's
up, and let everything else just happen…Most likely you won't have anything to worry about at that
point. If any trouble starts, please do me a favor — grab him and just WALK AWAY!!!
- To be frank with you, it sounds like he still has feelings for this girl. Otherwise he would have stuck up for you and told her no matter what ploy she tries, it's not going to work. He needs to grow up and know that just by taking his ex to a semi-formal is not going to get her off your back or his. If this "story" is true and she is threatening to beat you up if he didn't take her to the dance, then guess what? She is going to take advantage of the situation again and again.
- Where there is no trust, all hope is lost. If you truly trust him, let him do what he wants. However, if you have second thoughts about the whole thing, it's best to go looking for somebody else.
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