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Results for 29-OCT-01 to 12-NOV-01
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Last week, Maggie said:
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"I have had a best friend all of my life. We have lived across the street from each other since we were born. Recently, a girl our age moved into the house next to my best friend's house. Now, my best friend and the new girl are friends. The two of them are spending more time together than with me! I hate it! What should I do?" |
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172 SmartGirls replied:
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Spread rumors about the new girl. Hopefully, your best friend will hear the rumors
and come back to you. |
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Try to steal the new girl away from your best friend. Then your friend will know
how you feel. |
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Try to be friends with your best friend and the new girl. Maybe you can all be
friends. |
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Ignore your former best friend and the new girl and find new friends. |
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Some SmartGirls said:
- I think you should move on and realise that this sort of thing happens to us all. Try to speak to your friend more often and tell her how you feel. If that doesn't work then you should move on. There are a lot of people who will show you respect.
- I think it is important to understand that even a best friend can have other friends. Sometimes it may seem like you are left out and sometimes you may actually be left out, but true friends will always be there for you. Let her make new friends. Maybe you all can become friends. In the mean time use this free time to make new friends and spend time with old friends. Then maybe who your best friend spends more time with might not be so important.
- Please, please, PLEASE don't blame it on the new girl. Although right now it probably seems she is out to break up you and your BFF, she is probably just looking to fit in. Think about how YOU wuld feel if you were in her shoes. She most likely is having a tough time finding some friends. I think that you should take your BFF aside, tell her how you feel, and hopefully the two of you can work something out. Maybe you can all be buds.
- Tell your best friend how you feel. Maybe she'll be cool about it and include you more often and then you can take it from there. If she's not cool about it, then find new friends. She's not worth it.
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